KNOWLEDGE IS POWER
Where is your head at right now in relation to your baby's birth?
Is it buried in the sand? Is it full of scary stories about what can go wrong? Are you worrying about whether you can cope with the pain or handle the potential need for intervention? Or are you feeling super positive and excited about the prospect of giving birth; ready to embrace the learning and immerse yourself in preparations?
The course is so empowering and not at all ‘hippy’. If you are in two minds about attending this course I would say to definitely go for it, and you won’t find a better person to help you along your own birth story. I will be forever grateful for all you have done for me, my partner and my perfect little lady.
Maybe you are thinking “I better not do a hypnobirthing course because they are going to tell me that I can’t have an epidural, or that I won’t need it because I won’t feel any pain”.
Perhaps you are frightened of setting yourself up for disappointment and worried that if the birth doesn't go to plan, then you might feel like you’ve failed.
Potentially all of these kinds of thoughts have got you so worked up, that you are too scared to even think about getting prepared for birth, and are wondering if it’s just better to see how it all goes on the day.
'The course helped give my partner a clear role in how to support me in the birth. He loved the course and it helped us both understand how important his role was. He was brilliant and I was able to cope well with every twist and turn to have the right birth on the day. I can't recommend enough'
Firstly, know that these thoughts are completely normal and most of my clients do start off feeling this way. The way that things have gone in the maternity world means that many parents to be feel hugely daunted and anxious when they think about birth.
You may have mentioned hypnobirthing or antenatal courses to your partner and they may have been very dismissive of the idea. It can feel quite lonely and upsetting when you want to do something in pregnancy or birth and you don't feel fully supported by those around you. And you can't blame them for that - they have heard all the horror stories too and they might already be worrying about finances when you go on maternity leave. Furthermore, the 'hypno' part of hypnobirthing puts a lot of partners off, which is totally understandable (and has caused me frustration for many years!).
Because here’s the thing…Whilst The Wise Hippo Birthing Programme may use hypnosis as part of its suite of tools and techniques it doesn’t mean that you have to have a water birth with whale music in the background and say no to any type of intervention or pain relief!
Not at all. What I truly want for you is to have THE RIGHT BIRTH ON THE DAY.
So let’s start there.
What is the 'right birth on the day'?
Focussing on having The Right Birth on the Day provides you with the opportunity to create a positive mindset about birth, whilst building up your ability to make sure that everything that happens on the day (and beforehand if necessary) is what you believe is the right course of action for you to take.
Realistically, life can throws us curve balls sometimes. It doesn’t matter how positively you focus on your birth, how much practice you do or how much you plan, sometimes things don’t go the way you hoped they would. In these situations, it is vital that you know how to navigate your care in order to make informed decisions. Knowing the benefits and risks of interventions and all of your alternative options will ensure you have full body autonomy and are properly consenting to any changes in the plan.
Of course, it can absolutely help your chances of having the birth you wish for if you have a positive mindset about birth. You will enable your body and baby to work at their best physiologically if you learn how to be calm and relaxed during labour. You will have a better chance of staying in control of your birth if you plan ahead of time and know how to communicate in a useful way with your medical care givers.
It doesn’t stop the curve balls though.
'By gaining more knowledge about the whole process we felt more confident and more in control when our baby was born. Even though we didn't get the exact birth experience we wanted, we were prepared for the one we got'
Mindi & Dan
However, it's when those curve balls turn up that hypnobirthing really comes into it's own, as you can use the tools and techniques you’ve learnt to maintain the feeling of control. Too many women and parents feel that they lost control of what was going on in the room during their labour and birth and some didn't even know why the plan was changing. This can feel extremely vulnerable at the time and can cause traumatic memories afterwards.
Having done my course, you can make sure that you ask appropriate questions of your medical caregivers, so that you fully understand all of the decisions that you make. This means that you will be able to look back on your baby’s birth no matter how it turns out on the day and know it was right for you and your baby.
My ultimate aim is to download as much of my years of knowledge and experience as a birth doula onto you and your partner as possible, alongside the core course content to tool you up for anything that may come your way. Heck, I'll even show your birth partner how to help encourage baby to move into a different position to avoid an assisted delivery or caesarean.
If this is all resonating with you then let’s dive a bit deeper now into The Wise Hippo Birthing Programme.
I bet you'll be Blown Away...